1991年，肯尼·马修斯(Kenny Matthews)住的公寓失火时，他才三岁。
不幸的是，这场事故夺去了他祖父的生命，并使他的身体烧伤了90%。
虽然36岁的他“不是在寻找爱情”，但他分享了自己的烧伤疤痕是如何影响他成年后的爱情生活的。
来自美国加州的肯尼说:“人们已经不再关心个性了，他们只想要一个人的外表好看或者有吸引力，老实说，我不符合这种描述。”
“有没有潜在的追求者评论过我的长相?”是的，很多次。
“有人对我说:‘你身上的烧伤/伤疤不是我喜欢的类型。’”
![Story from Jam Press (Burns Survivor) Pictured: Kenny Matthews with his grandmother before the fire. Burns survivor with 90% of body scarred says love life ?non-existent? due to looks. A man who suffered burns to 90% of his body in a tragic childhood accident has shared how his appearance affects his love life. Kenny Matthews was just three years old when his apartment went up in flames in 1991, tragically claiming the life of his grandfather. The toddler was left with lifelong scars and has undergone multiple operations over the years, including skin grafting and plastic surgery. Now 36, Kenny, who has 2.4 million followers @?ikendawg, shares his story on social media to promote body positivity and encourages others to embrace their physical differences. But while he has been able to accept his changed looks, he reveals that the scars have had a knock-on effect on his dating life. ?People don't really care a<em></em>bout perso<em></em>nality anymore ? they just want somebody to look good or attractive physically, and ho<em></em>nestly I don't fit that des<em></em>cription,? Kenny, from California, US, told NeedToKnow.co.uk ?Have potential suitors ever commented on my looks? Yes, a bunch of times. ?If I try to talk to somebody that I might be interested in, they'll say ?it's hard to feel attracted to you, because of your burns and scars?. ?I?ve also had people say ?you're not my type because of your burns/scars?.? While Kenny ?isn?t looking for love?, he ?believes in loyalty? and ?being himself?. He said: ?o<em></em>nce you know how to take care of yourself by yourself, havin<em></em>g company becomes an option, not like a necessity. ?I do think I?d feel differently a<em></em>bout this if it wasn?t for my scars. ?I had a guy [once] tell me something [like] ?it is hard to feel attracted to someone like you because of your scars and burns?. ?I understand it's not their fault, but I'm smart enough to know not every person is the same. ?I think my burns](http://www.huioj.com/file/upload/202310/18/082509561.jpg)
肯尼有240万粉丝@ikendawg，他在网上分享了自己的故事，鼓励其他人接受自己的身体差异，促进身体的积极性。
尽管他并没有积极寻找伴侣，但他“相信忠诚”，相信“做自己”。
他说:“一旦你知道如何自己照顾自己，陪伴就变成了一种选择，而不是必需品。”
“我确实认为，如果不是因为我的伤疤，我会有不同的看法。
“曾经有个人跟我说过这样的话:‘很难被像你这样的人吸引，因为你身上有伤疤和灼伤。’”
“我知道这不是他们的错，但我很聪明，知道不是每个人都一样。
![Story from Jam Press (Burns Survivor) Pictured: Kenny Matthews as a child recovering from his injuries Burns survivor with 90% of body scarred says love life ?non-existent? due to looks. A man who suffered burns to 90% of his body in a tragic childhood accident has shared how his appearance affects his love life. Kenny Matthews was just three years old when his apartment went up in flames in 1991, tragically claiming the life of his grandfather. The toddler was left with lifelong scars and has undergone multiple operations over the years, including skin grafting and plastic surgery. Now 36, Kenny, who has 2.4 million followers @?ikendawg, shares his story on social media to promote body positivity and encourages others to embrace their physical differences. But while he has been able to accept his changed looks, he reveals that the scars have had a knock-on effect on his dating life. ?People don't really care a<em></em>bout perso<em></em>nality anymore ? they just want somebody to look good or attractive physically, and ho<em></em>nestly I don't fit that des<em></em>cription,? Kenny, from California, US, told NeedToKnow.co.uk ?Have potential suitors ever commented on my looks? Yes, a bunch of times. ?If I try to talk to somebody that I might be interested in, they'll say ?it's hard to feel attracted to you, because of your burns and scars?. ?I?ve also had people say ?you're not my type because of your burns/scars?.? While Kenny ?isn?t looking for love?, he ?believes in loyalty? and ?being himself?. He said: ?o<em></em>nce you know how to take care of yourself by yourself, havin<em></em>g company becomes an option, not like a necessity. ?I do think I?d feel differently a<em></em>bout this if it wasn?t for my scars. ?I had a guy [once] tell me something [like] ?it is hard to feel attracted to someone like you because of your scars and burns?. ?I understand it's not their fault, but I'm smart enough to know not every person is the same. ?I think my burn](http://www.huioj.com/file/upload/202310/18/082509921.jpg)
“我认为我的烧伤和伤疤在某种程度上影响了我的自信，因为如果我不是这样，我的身体会更强壮，这阻碍了我保护自己和反击。”
有时(它们)让我看起来不可战胜，有时又让我看起来很糟糕。
“我所知道的是，重要的是我的内心是一个伟大的人。别的对我都不重要。”
尽管肯尼被烧伤时还只是个婴儿，但他仍然记得事故发生的那一天。
他说:“我在客厅的地板上玩玩具，看电视，而我的祖父正在客厅的沙发上睡觉。”
“突然，我听到窗户里传来一阵骚动，然后窗户就着火了。
“我不知道是什么原因导致窗户破裂，但我只记得公寓里充满了煤气和烟雾。”
“我能做的只有恐慌。我祖父因吸入烟雾而咳嗽。”
![Story from Jam Press (Burns Survivor) Pictured: Kenny Matthews. Burns survivor with 90% of body scarred says love life ?non-existent? due to looks. A man who suffered burns to 90% of his body in a tragic childhood accident has shared how his appearance affects his love life. Kenny Matthews was just three years old when his apartment went up in flames in 1991, tragically claiming the life of his grandfather. The toddler was left with lifelong scars and has undergone multiple operations over the years, including skin grafting and plastic surgery. Now 36, Kenny, who has 2.4 million followers @?ikendawg, shares his story on social media to promote body positivity and encourages others to embrace their physical differences. But while he has been able to accept his changed looks, he reveals that the scars have had a knock-on effect on his dating life. ?People don't really care a<em></em>bout perso<em></em>nality anymore ? they just want somebody to look good or attractive physically, and ho<em></em>nestly I don't fit that des<em></em>cription,? Kenny, from California, US, told NeedToKnow.co.uk ?Have potential suitors ever commented on my looks? Yes, a bunch of times. ?If I try to talk to somebody that I might be interested in, they'll say ?it's hard to feel attracted to you, because of your burns and scars?. ?I?ve also had people say ?you're not my type because of your burns/scars?.? While Kenny ?isn?t looking for love?, he ?believes in loyalty? and ?being himself?. He said: ?o<em></em>nce you know how to take care of yourself by yourself, havin<em></em>g company becomes an option, not like a necessity. ?I do think I?d feel differently a<em></em>bout this if it wasn?t for my scars. ?I had a guy [once] tell me something [like] ?it is hard to feel attracted to someone like you because of your scars and burns?. ?I understand it's not their fault, but I'm smart enough to know not every person is the same. ?I think my burns and scars affected my co<em></em>nfidence in a](http://www.huioj.com/file/upload/202310/18/082509161.jpg)
“他试图救我的命，但他真的无能为力，因为他很虚弱。
“他把我夹在胳膊下，把我抱到窗外——不幸的是，我就是这样被火烧伤的。”
他被紧急送往医院，在接下来的几十年里接受了无数次手术，肯尼称这是一段“非常痛苦的旅程”。
现在，在经历了这么多年之后，他的治疗终于结束了。
他说，在社交媒体上分享发生在他身上的一切帮助他找回了信心。
他说:“这是一种很棒的感觉，因为我可以展示自己好的一面，一个更好的自己，鼓励别人和自己竞争。”
“人们总是问我如何保持积极，我告诉他们积极是会传染的。
“如果你一直和积极向上的人在一起，他们对你的心灵、你的思想和你的灵魂都有好处，那么你很可能会成为一个积极的人。”
“我创建TikTok是因为人们把我看作活生生的见证和超级英雄，所以我认为社交媒体本身就是展示自己的好方法。”
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对于那些可能正在为自己的外表而挣扎的人，肯尼说:“不要担心被喜欢，因为不是每个人都喜欢你。
“我还认为尊重会有很长的路要走。
“不要总是在外表上花太多时间，要花时间在个性和心态上。”
“每天早上醒来的时候都要学会感恩，因为你必须记住，不是每个人都拥有你所拥有的。”
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